Breaking Free: The Power of Releasing Expectations

Let me paint you a picture of an unexpected transformation.

Last week, I found myself behind the wheel of a Lamborghini Urus and a McLaren 720s.

But that wasn't even close to the best part of my VIP Day with my mentor, Mike Brown.

Sure, the supercars were incredible.

But what really got my heart racing was diving deep into the expectations that have been driving my life – many of which I didn't even know were there.

Here's the truth.

We're all carrying around expectations like extra weight.

Some were placed on us by others, some we've put on ourselves.

And most of them?

Don't serve us anymore.

The Real Cost of Expectations

Think about it. How many times have you heard:

• "You'll never amount to anything"

• "You're not smart enough"

• "That's not a realistic goal"

• "Stay in your lane"

Now, think about the expectations you've placed on yourself:

• "I need to have a perfectly clean house"

• "I have to work 80 hours a week to be successful"

• "I have to be right all the time and can’t fuck it"

• "Perfection"

During my seven-hour deep dive with Mike, I realized something profound: I've been running from my past, trying to outrun expectations that were never mine to carry in the first place.

Here's where it gets interesting.

Mike had me do something I hadn't done since grade school – draw my dream life.

Yeah, with stick figures and all.

Trust me, I won't be quitting my day job to become an artist.

But when I finished and described what I'd drawn to Mike, I had my biggest revelation of the day.

90% of my dream life is already happening.

I just hadn't stopped long enough to recognize it.

I'd been so busy chasing what I thought success should look like.

I'd missed what it actually looks like for me.

Now, I want to give you the same gift Mike gave me.

Here's what I want you to do right after reading this:

1. Grab a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle

2. On the left side, write down every expectation others have placed on you (parents, family, society)

3. On the right side, write down every expectation you've placed on yourself

4. Circle the ones that don't align with the life you want to create

5. Now for the important part – release them

Yes, literally release them.

Say goodbye to them.

They're not yours to carry anymore.

Here's what I learned:

Success isn't about meeting everyone else's expectations. It's about defining your own path and having the courage to walk it.

That Lamborghini?

It was amazing, and I’m buying it from Mike once he’s ready to upgrade.

But the real luxury is the freedom to define success on your own terms.

You don't need a VIP Day with Mike Brown to start this journey (though I highly recommend it).

You just need the courage to face those expectations head-on and the strength to let go of the ones that don't serve you.

When you release expectations that don't serve you, you create space for what does.

You open yourself up to recognizing the success you've already achieved and the dreams you're already living.

Take 30 minutes today to do this exercise.

Be brutally honest with yourself.

What expectations are you carrying that aren't yours to bear?

What dreams are you chasing that belong to someone else?

Remember: The life you want might be closer than you think. Sometimes, we just need to clear away the expectations to see it.

To your freedom,

mm

P.S. If this resonates with you and you want to dig deeper, reply with "expectations" and let's talk about what's holding you back.